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The Miracle Morning is a great way to start off, not just a new year, but an entirely new decade! 2020 is going to be the Best Year Ever as long as we decide and make it so! Start with reading the book.
Being vulnerable isn't easy because we are afraid of being judged or not being loved. So, we allow the fear of not being loved, the fear of losing someone or something, the fear of losing money or the fear of "not being enough" drive us to an uncomfortable existence.
Take these steps NOW to make 2020 the Best Year Ever!
Step #1 - Know Yourself
Identify your highest three values for 2020. Focus on these three and only these three this year.
Step #2 - Love Yourself
Shut down anything that isn't those top 3 & shows self-love.
Step #3 - Be Yourself
Create a schedule and daily habits/rituals that you absolutely love and that, when done every single day, not only move you towards your dreams but create a life you WANT to live and you're excited about living!
Every challenge you face is a result of filling your schedule with things that are not in alignment with your values or who you are.
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[00:01] Over the last two centuries, nearly 90 percent of the world's millionaires have created their wealth through real estate. Here to tell you how you can ride this wave with less risk and less capital while creating greater income, is your host, best selling author and Speaker, Michelle Russell.
[00:21] Hi, this is Michelle, the Master of Money Mindset, and you are listening to the Short Term Rental Revenue Podcast...
and in today's episode, we are going to be talking about beginning by designing 2020 how to start the year off, right? This is it guys. It's not just a new year, it's an entirely new decade. It's time for us to get out there and really make a difference. This is the year to push and to really get ahead. Doesn't matter what we did before, but we're going to talk all about that in just a moment. I wanted to remind you first that our show today is brought to you by audible. You can get your first audio book for free by going to audible, trial.com forward slash S T R revenue. That's audible, trial.com forward slash S T R revenue. And you'll be able to get your first audio book for free and 30 days using audible the app and the membership, meaning you can get access to tons and tons of books of free daily giveaway, all kinds of great things just by going to audible, trial.com forward slash S T R revenue.
Speaker 2: (01:28)
Okay, so my new year, I started this year taking off the end of last year. So I took off the week of Christmas and the week of new year's. And I'm so happy I did because first of all I really, really, really needed a break. But I got a lot of great ideas for reading books. And I read three books. I read one book that was so amazing and it was a history book. So I read for pleasure. Holy cow. That's an awesome thing for me to do because most of the time I'm only reading self-help business, you know, those kinds of books. And so to actually read a history book was really, really fun. So I did that this year about what was really cool was I read a book I never read before that it had to do with business. That's an older book and usually most books don't get by me. This one somehow got by me and somebody in my women's group said, Michelle, have you read the miracle morning?
Speaker 2: (02:26)
And I was like, miracle morning. I've heard of it. Is it the same guy who wrote four hour work week? No, no, not him is another guy. So anyways, we cut into this big, big discussion about this miracle morning thing and I was like, okay, I totally got to read this book. I mean, if I'm going to be starting my new year off, I wanted to start with atomic habits because it's good to reread books that are really good for you, right? Like that are the ones that move you forward. The ones that help you to cement in all the different habits you want to, you know, spent in because you're always moving. It just depends on how and where you're moving, right? No matter what you're doing, what kind of actions you take every single day. If you look at them in the long run, that's where you're going to end up.
Speaker 2: (03:12)
So if you're just sitting on the couch every single day in the long run, you're going to end up heavier and lazier and with a hurt body. But if you're getting up every day and doing just a little exercise, that means you're going to stay pretty much healthy, right? Doing some exercise every single day, even if it's 10 minutes or 20 minutes a day, you're going to probably stay pretty healthy exercise wise. If you're eating good pretty much every single day, it doesn't matter if you have that one little fluke where you went out with friends or something, but if every day you're pretty consistent eating healthy, you're going to be a healthy person. So these habits that we like to do, I like to cement them in at the beginning of year with a book or something that I know like, Oh, I'm going to read that book again and just go over it.
Speaker 2: (03:59)
And every time I listen to books, I hear something new. It's kind of weird, but you'll have read a book over and over again, and each time you read it, it's like it's brand new to you. Most books are like that. It's really strange because you're always in a different place, I think, but books are really important. I know I've talked about this over and over again, and you're probably getting sick of me saying it, but I want to like ingrain it in you. When I was with the Tony Robbins group, there was a bunch of us and Tony would say the same things over and over again. If you've listened to his tapes, there are some things that he says over and over again, same stories over and over again. Why? Probably just like Jesus. A lot of us learn from stories. Number one, and repetition builds retention.
Speaker 2: (04:49)
Meaning the more you hear something, the more you're going to retain it. So you need to hear things over and over again. The more you hear them, the more true they become to you, even if they're not true, right? So be careful what you're hearing and what you're listening to, but if you're feeding your brain good information, then that repetition is going to build a retention of good information. So the information that we were getting from Tony was great information. It wasn't just good information, it was great information and information that helped us move forward. So this year I wanted to start with atomic habits again because I was like, okay, from now on the beginning of the year, I'm going to start with atomic habits, but I thought, Oh, this miracle morning sounds like an amazing book, and Oh my gosh, it's absolutely amazing. I got through it super quick.
Speaker 2: (05:43)
I couldn't even believe how quickly I got through it. I had pages and pages of notes from it and I was like, Oh my gosh, this is like, I know, awesome book. And it was really nice too that I did it during my time off. I think I'm going to make sure that atomic habits and miracle morning are going to be my new go-to end of the year, beginning of year books. Because doing it during my time off gave me, Oh, I was so nice to be able to sit there and be able to take the notes and literally plan things out. Just take that moment to take a deep breath and find out what really, really is important to me and who I am and who I want to be. And so I wanted to talk to you guys a little more about that too, because you know, a lot of times we're just going, going, going and we know what we should be doing.
Speaker 2: (06:37)
And so a lot of times we do it right. We're doing it 24 seven three 65 I mean, we're just working our little butts off and we forget why or we forget who we are or what the end game is and we just keep going through these motions. And so I've had a lot of things at the end of this last year, 2019 Oh so passe, right? Like a whole week ago. But, um, I, I'd like a bunch of things happen in a bunch of our short term rentals. So in one of our short term rental places, we lost one of our big companies. It was absorbed into another cleaning company and I am not happy. I'm actually really unhappy about it because what was really great about this company, it was automated and so we could book inside their website and we had it filled out for the next few months. So that was really great.
Speaker 2: (07:34)
But from now on, they're not doing three things. Guess what the three things are, they're not going to be working on weekends. Uh, what of like Saturdays and Sundays are now off. I'm like, this is not gonna work. But that wasn't it either. Then it was also that they didn't want to do laundry. Well, they didn't want to not just not do laundry, not handle laundry. That's a no-go. We needed somebody. I mean, just like this is crazy. And then the other thing was they didn't want to touch any food inside refrigerators or anything else. So if we have people staying at our properties and they leave things, we always have them empty out the fridge and freezers and cabinets so that there's nothing there. But we be some spices and some olive oil or something. But nothing, nothing big. We don't leave anything there for a variety of reasons.
Speaker 2: (08:27)
Mostly because we don't want to be sued if there's something there, you know like pancake mix and God forbid somebody puts anything in the pancake mix or something and somebody else uses it and gets sick, we can be blamed for that. So no open packages of any kind. So we don't have anything like that. But they didn't want to touch any food. So basically I think there was some other things too, but I was like, you've got to be freaking kidding me. I got to find a new company and I don't like that. I change. I know change is good, blah blah blah. No change sometimes sucks because I like it when I get my machine well oiled and everything is working perfectly and running perfectly. Then somebody just throws a monkey wrench into it and it's just like, shit. Now I gotta go find another cleaning company, which means I've got to go interview more people.
Speaker 2: (09:18)
And there was a reason, you know that I chose that company probably in most of the time in most areas there's somebody who really stands out and that guy was really good and so he sold his company. So now I gotta find somebody else. Then we had some other things happen in some other properties, the properties down in Tucson. I looked at my husband and I said, you know, for 2020 I'm conflicted because my short term rental business pulls me away from my business with you guys from my podcast and my membership site and the articles I love and everything that I do, it pulls me away from it constantly. And it's not that I don't like doing it, but remember what I said about my investments. I really like hands off investments. I'm not the kind of person who wants to be a host or maybe someday I do kind of dream of a place where I would have like a little Casita's around me where people can come in and it would be really pleasant, especially as I get older to just do fun stuff.
Speaker 2: (10:25)
You know, as I get older, I'm just want to bake and I just want to write and I just want to do the things I want to do and not really work all the time. Like I work now, I just want to kind of take it easy as I get older right now, not so much now or in the next five years, but as we go on, you know, by the time I'm 65 man, I want to, I want to start slowing down and retiring and not ever give up on doing anything because I don't have that personality where I could just sit. But I love to write. I love to read, I love to bake. I love to do a lot of different things. Right? I love to hike and bike and be outside and so I don't want to be working as hard as I work.
Speaker 2: (11:05)
And so at the end of the year I just looked down and I said, you know, I really want to get my priorities straight so I really want to start investing more right now in the near future, but maybe not later on, but right now in the near future and a lot more turnkey things, handing it off to management companies where I don't have to touch it and the reason why is then I can focus on the things that I love doing. And I love teaching. I really, really love teaching. I got to do a bunch of stuff with Maria. She came back out to Arizona and did a class and I was there and I was just like, man, I love this. It was so much fun. And I said, I love investing in real estate. You know, I do, but I don't like the work that is involved when it comes to my short term rentals.
Speaker 2: (11:55)
It's a very hands on, very white glove kind of thing. I mean it's all about the service and you have to be right on board with it. And I said, you know, I want to just pass that off to other people and just collect a check at the end. I really do because what does it all come down to when you get older anyway, if you ask any real estate investor who's been in the game for a long time, don't ask any newbies. And when I say newbies, I mean if they got in after the crash or right before and after the crash, then they don't know what we know. But if you've been in real estate investing for a while, what you do know about real estate investing is the end game for the majority of us is to have properties that are bringing in cash, cash flowing, right and self-managed where we don't have to do it or be the banker being lending out money to other people and have that money secured by properties so that we're not going to lose it.
Speaker 2: (12:53)
We've got nice high interest rates, but most of us want to be the bank at the end. We don't want to be working our butts off at the end of this game. That's not our end game, our end game. You know a lot of people are like, Oh, I'm going to accumulate a bunch of properties and you're like, good luck with that because the more properties you have, the more headaches you have. It literally goes that way. I mean then some people get really cheap and go, I don't want to have property management companies. I'm like, you're an idiot. You're an idiot. Unless you've got like a shitload of time on your hands. Or sometimes I wish I had a wife so I could delegate stuff and say, honey, you take care of this. Like my husband writes those notes for me. You know the honey do list that I get that says take care of this and take care of that.
Speaker 2: (13:35)
I guess if I had a wife that I could totally manage all my properties without a property management company, but I don't, I love being the landlord. When my kids were younger, I didn't mind at all collecting the checks and managing the properties and doing all that work back then and as I grew right and got older and got busier with the kids and stuff, then I learned to use property management companies, different tools and resources that keep your business going and growing. Right? So this year I decided that I'm going to focus a lot more on this end of the business. We want to teach, we want to show people how to invest and we want to show them the right way to invest so that they're being careful. Making sure that when they create an LLC, I mean that's, that's the scariest thing. When you are teaching people about investing, you can give them, what do they say?
Speaker 2: (14:32)
Enough information to be dangerous. That's the truth. There's a reason why they have that scene because telling somebody to just go out and do an LLC is great. They go out and they create an LLC. But if they don't set it up right, if they don't pay their taxes, if they don't put money aside, if they don't listen to you or they don't hear you, that's another thing. If they're listening but they're only grasping part of what you're saying because of where they are. Remember how I said when you're reading a book, sometimes you hear things that you didn't hear before. Those things were always there. You just weren't ready to hear them. So when you're teaching real estate to people, it's pretty much the same thing. There's a enough information to make people dangerous and there's giving people not enough information. So Maria and I were talking about what would we like to see in the education system.
Speaker 2: (15:26)
What was good about what we learned from all these different gurus and all these courses that we go to and we still attend even to this day. We go to real estate courses. What was good about them and what wasn't? What were they lacking? What information did we wish we had? I have a friend and I was on his podcast and he has a show where he talks to people about their worst investment ever. That's so great. But he has a really hard time getting people on his show to open up and be honest or even get on his show. He sends out tons of informations to a bunch of investors and no one wants to talk about their F ups. Nobody does. Tell me why because it's embarrassing. Of course. It's embarrassing. I fucked up and I didn't remember to do this. I didn't cross my T. I didn't drop my, I, I forgot to check on this.
Speaker 2: (16:22)
I forgot to have the inspection. I use somebody else's inspection. All these mistakes that we make, but here's the deal. Those are our biggest lessons. I think his show is like one of the best shows out there, one of the best podcasts out there because it literally lets you know that everybody makes mistakes. Number one, if you aren't making a mistake, then you aren't growing. So right now I'm reading failing forward again. And I decided to read that with everybody in our group because I was like all failing forward. I haven't read it in years. It's Maxwell book. And John was talking in that book about failure being the price that we pay for success. The more we fail, the more we succeed. And if we're afraid to fail, then we're not going to move. We're going to be stuck in this inaction. So I've got all this information in my head that I want to get out and I always wanted to write with.
Speaker 2: (17:18)
So I went and talked to my mentors about writing. I don't know if you guys remember or if you've heard this story already, but I wanted to write books about investing. I wanted to write books about not just investing, but money mindset because literally I know, and if you read any books out there, I mean come on the millionaire next door, the millionaire mind thinking, grow rich, all of these books, everything that you read will tell you that you have to change your mindset first. It is literally the most important thing. And reading is extremely important. And setting up a schedule and these rituals that we do every single day, these are really important. Some people call them lists. So like if your serve Richard Branson says that he has nothing but lists but lists, he has the same list that he does every single day. So that's a ritual, right?
Speaker 2: (18:15)
You get up in the morning, take a shower, check, exercise, check, whatever, whatever he's sets in his motion, whatever he does every day is moving him forward. And we have to create those winning steps every single day and adjust them and make sure that we're moving the way we want to move so that at the end of a specific amount of time, we are going to be in the destination that we desired to go to, right? Because we took those steps and we were consistent and persistent with our steps. So I've decided to step back a little with the hands on notice of my short term rentals. Now I still have a 10 unit that I'm working on and I've got another in the keys and I've got another one over in West Palm that I'm working on right now. And so maybe I will still with those, but for the most part, I'm going to be looking into finding managers to do this stuff for us.
Speaker 2: (19:17)
Not necessarily cohost, maybe some co-hosts. That would be really great if I could find a good cohost, but I don't want to do this anymore. I really don't. Oh, I got to step away from it. And that's what I want to do. I want people to be successful. It's important to me that people realize there's so much crap right now out there telling people they can't do this or they can't do that because of this, that, or the other thing. And it's such bullshit. Don't let those people talk to you, don't listen to them. And instead of flooding your mind with the bullshit, just start flooding your mind with the stuff that really makes a difference. Start flooding your mind with good information and information that propels you and moves you forward. And that's going to be like the books we read right each and every day we've got, right now we're doing a challenge this year.
Speaker 2: (20:07)
You know, we challenged everybody to read a book a month. So that's 12 books a year. Um, you can read two books a month and that's 24 books a year. I'm actually going to challenge myself to read 50 books this year and I thought, I mean that sounds amazing, right? But I'm already three down, which is super exciting. So I've got three really good books that I've already read this year and we're not even a whole week into the new years. So that's pretty exciting. What are you going to do? What are you going to do this year? Are you going to change something? Because honestly, what is the definition of insanity? Is doing the same thing and expecting different results. Don't be person. Don't be that person. And don't be the person who gets pissed off that they didn't achieve something or discouraged. So what? Dust yourself off and get up because I'm telling you before every big win, there was a lot of failures all along the way, right?
Speaker 2: (21:06)
If you looked at my businesses and called them dead bodies, it was like we're climbing over a lot of dead bodies here and I know a lot of people are doing the same thing. There was some guy, and I can't even remember what book I was reading or maybe it was a podcast I was listening to last week where there was a guy who was talking about studying entrepreneurs and famous millionaire entrepreneurs that they had on average 17 failed businesses before they had their first one, that one 17 that's a lot of bodies that they went over, right? Like think about that. It means that you just keep going. You just keep going. You learn from the mistakes and you just keep going. You just keep persevering. So I really want to encourage you to do that. Very same thing. Now if you want to, you can join us on our Facebook group and go on there and you'll see what we've got inspirational things every single day.
Speaker 2: (22:07)
And like I said, we're doing the book challenge this year and I also did a really brief goal setting workshop for everybody, so we did a really cool thing. You can find that right on our website going to short term rental revenue.com and right on the front page. I think the replay for the goal setting one is the air. Just go right on it. You don't have to do anything special. Just click on it and it will start for you and take notes. There's actually a download on that too, so there's a set of activity sheets for you to do and so that would be really, really great. All right, let's get into this year. Let's get into 2020 and setting some amazing goals and setting ourself up to achieve those goals. The first thing I want you to do though is you've got to start reading.
Speaker 2: (23:00)
I know, I know. Some of you are going no, and please don't make me read. I don't want to read anymore. My husband hates reading and whenever he's with me I'm, he can listen to books whenever we go anywhere. When we go hiking, there's, we're close to the mountains here, so we go up to the mountains a lot, but it's a couple hour drive up to Sholo or pine top or something. And when we go up there, I'm like, we're listening to a book. I've got some good book in there and he'll make fun of me, but he'll listen to it. If you're not growing, you're dying. And I really believe that. I believe that we have to be learning all the time. So I want my brain active and I want your brain active too. You have got to commit to your future and here's the deal.
Speaker 2: (23:47)
If you're not going to commit this year, when are you going to commit? That's going to make all the difference too is the commitment. I've talked about that before. When people make that decision, that commitment is really what changes everything. When they say, you know what to how it is, I'm going to give it my all and I'm not quitting until I am successful. That's it. I will not allow failure. I just won't. And that is the type of commitment you need to have this year. Motivation is bullshit. Motivation fades and it doesn't last. Even Tony Robbins talks about that it fades. It doesn't last. So what you have to do, you have to commit yourself to whatever it is you want to achieve. Obviously on there I'm going to put a dream board how to make a dream board because I think dream boards, vision boards, you know, just having plans and stuff or all that stuff.
Speaker 2: (24:46)
I'm going to put a free workshop in there coming up for how to create your own dream board or vision board because you want to have what you're going for right in front of you all the time. Okay? And then I want you to read the miracle morning and I want you to read atomic habits because that is going to be the key every single day. Getting up early and really going for it, giving it your all and in everything you do, being completely a hundred percent present where you are and what you're attempting to do, right? And that will give you everything you need to be successful. It really will, that commitment and the go getter redness or I hit the go get madness of it all. So I want you to commit to reading those two books. I don't care if you don't read another book this year, those two books, the miracle morning and atomic habits, get those two books and read those.
Speaker 2: (25:48)
And if you want to, if you're feeling up for a challenge, I challenge you to get an a on our book challenge because that's a book a month. And if you can, if you've already read a book a month, I don't recommend that you do more than a book a month if you're not into that habit yet. But if you can make listening to a book every single day, part of your getting dressed habit, or you're doing dishes habit, or you're driving to work habit, if you can do that, then you might be able to go to two books or three books. And mine is basically about a book a week, right? I got to finish three books this time because why? Because I had two weeks off. So there was one day where I just, I listened to a book for like four hours worth of books or something.
Speaker 2: (26:35)
I was working out in my yard and I just had it on the whole time. So I got a lot of book time in there. Right? And that's not always going to happen because now I'm back at work and now I'm back in the grind. But I still have my morning rituals that I do where I can listen to my book. It's just making sure that I do that. That's all I have to do. So I really ask you to commit to yourself and to commit to your life to doing this. The affirmations thing is really cool too, because during the miracle morning, he does affirmations. Now we have an affirmation course that we've had for a long time. We give that away to people who sign up for our annual membership. So if you're an annual member and you've paid for an annual membership or the profit masters, let me know.
Speaker 2: (27:27)
If you don't have the affirmations course, you should get it. It was given to all of those last year. I'm not sure in the recent one, if you got a freebie, you may have gotten another free course that we have because we have one inspiration from winners. We have another course inspiration from winners. So maybe you got that one instead. But if you want the affirmations course and you send me a request for that, email [email protected] I'll give you that course for free if you have the balls to do that. Right. Because guess what, most people don't follow up and they don't follow through with stuff. They'll listen to something, they'll write it down and then they just don't do it. And that's the saddest, hardest part. It's really funny cause we did that course with Maria last month and she had like 50 people in this room and all of them were in the same area.
Speaker 2: (28:18)
And they said, well if we all do that, it'll be saturated. And she said, but you all won't. Maybe 5% of you will. And probably less than that out of this whole room, probably one or two people at the most. We'll do what I asked you to do and that is the sad truth of it. Even working with Robert Kiyosaki, we got to see that firsthand all the time. Who are the people who did it and who are the people who are not? And you know what? The ones who complain the most, they don't do it. They've got all these excuses and it's absolutely amazing to me. I'm listening. Like I said, I'm listening right now to failing forward again. I never got the really great stories that he had in there. One of the stories is about a gentleman who was born without hands or little little thumbs for hands and he did all this stuff.
Speaker 2: (29:12)
He actually became a tennis player and then later on in life he met another guy who was just like him and he thought, Oh, this is going to be great. I'm going to have a mentor, somebody who can relate to me. And he said that this guy had the worst attitude ever and no wonder everything seemed to happen to him. He was a victim of circumstance, blah, blah, blah. And that's not how winners think. They just don't. Things happen for us, not to us. That's how you've got to learn to think. Those are reasons to overcome. To me, they happened for me to make me the person I am, right? The person that I am has persevered through all of those things. And that's how you have to think. If you sit there every day and you think of yourself as a victim, that is literally going to hold you down.
Speaker 2: (30:07)
You will never ever succeed. If you blame anybody for anything in your life, you will not succeed until you change that story, changed the story, look in the mirror, take responsibility and then go. Because everything shifts and everything changes when you take responsibility. And when you see those setbacks, those hurdles, and I don't even care how hard they are when you see those things as things that happen for you to make you a better person to, you know, brand you in the fire. That is when your life will change and then you commit and I'm telling you, it's going to be a whole different thing. Okay? So let's talk about living and aligning with our values. So remember what I said. I took that time off. Oh, how fun was that? I took the time off and when I was going through everything, I got to see what I really, really wanted.
Speaker 2: (31:10)
What did I really want? And the crazy thing is, of course it's going to disappoint a lot of you because there's going to be a lot of young that say, Oh, I can't believe that she doesn't want to do this. She doesn't want to do short term rentals herself and be hands on. She wants to hand it off to somebody else and just be a business owner. What kind of short term rental owner is that? That's the kind of short term rental owner I am. That's who I am. You can't judge somebody else by the story that you write for yourself and you can't allow somebody else to write your story for you. So it might not be the thing that you want to do or you might not want to do it yet. It might not be in the cards. But guys, I've been playing this game a long time and I'm tired of it.
Speaker 2: (32:00)
Man. I'm really, really tired and I know what I wanted to do. So when I got back into the mentoring whole thing, I just wanted to write. I got talked into doing a podcast and then I thought, I love doing a pod guess this is really fun. Because I started getting letters from people and I was changing lives and that's amazing to me, but I still, the heart of it all goes back to teaching because that's where you make the biggest impact is teaching others. Right. So there's a lot of people will say, if you can't do you teach, that's bullshit. Because the best teachers are doers. The best teachers are the ones who do it themselves or the ones who've made those mistakes and gone through it. I believe in good teachers, good mentors, the people who have done it themselves, and I love to learn from them.
Speaker 2: (32:47)
And I still do. I still go to courses. Like I said, I still go to courses and classes, but I like to go to the old guys. We were just talking about going down to Florida for Larry Howard bowls thing and I love Larry stuff. I mean he's really good and there's a couple of other really great teachers down there and they've been in the game for a long time. They're like in their seventies and I'm telling you, you can learn a lot, especially about negotiation and about unconventional offers because these guys make offers. I think every single offer they make as some kind of different, you know, it's just, there's no cookie cutter anything. They just take it off the cuffing go. And those are my favorite teachers. And I want to be that for you. I want to make sure that you're getting all that you can.
Speaker 2: (33:32)
When I was looking at this, I wanted to make sure that this year I aligned myself with what I believed in and then I was doing what I believed I was called to do because I asked. So there's a purpose filled life. There's a bunch of really great books that I've read and I believe I'm one of those people who believe that we all have a purpose and that if we give, give, give, that we always get in return. Like it just comes back to us, right? So my purpose, what is my purpose? I kept thinking to myself, what, what am I supposed to do? What do I love doing? What do I love sharing? When do I really get on fire? And it's always helping people out. I mean, it always, always is. So I decided that this year I'm going to make sure that I opened myself up more to helping people and less to doing that part of the business, making sure that that part of my business kind of rolls on its own because I would rather do something else.
Speaker 2: (34:37)
I'd rather do something in my eyes that's way more meaningful. Correct. So I want you to sit down, especially after you read this book, but write these questions down now and start thinking about them now. How am I going to align who I am and what my values are? Who am I? That's really some of the hard questions you have to ask because you look at yourself and you're like, Oh, I've got to pay the mortgage and I've got to pay my bills and I've got to do this and I've got to do that and I've got to drive the kids and do church things and I've got to do all this stuff. But who are you? Who are you trying to be? You know, and are your ideas and values about yourself given to you from other people or are they yours? Do you own them?
Speaker 2: (35:28)
Because a lot of times we do a lot of things in our life, probably most of things in our life because we believe that's what we should be doing. And there's somebody else's, there's somebody else's dreams and goals and visions. So it's not my vision. I look at it, a lot of people online and I see them doing stuff and I think that's really nice and cool, but that's really not who I am. That's not who I'm meant to be. So who am I and what do I want? That's their dream. That's their life. That's their vision of success. What is mind? And so these are things you're going to have to really, really think about once you start doing the miracle morning and creating those habits for yourself. So remember to every challenge you face is a result of filling your schedule with things that are, are not in alignment with your values.
Speaker 2: (36:24)
Did you understand that every time you have a hurdle or every time you're brushed up against something that seems tough or you have to overcome, it's because you are filling your time and your schedule with a bunch of things that aren't in alignment with who you are. Because if you're doing what you love to do, it flows. Have you ever like been doing something and they call it being in the zone and the time just flies? That's because you're in the zone. That's because you're doing something that you love and something that really matters to you. And when you're in the zone, there are no hurdles. So make sure that you're clearing all those hurdles out, every challenge you face as a result of filling your schedule with things that are not in alignment with your values. Also, it's a matter of cutting things out.
Speaker 2: (37:12)
What things are you going to cut out and what things are you going to add in to your calendar when you know what you want to do? Let's take for instance, because it's such an easy example, weight loss. Let's say you wanted to lose weight. Now you might be the healthiest fittest. We're just using this as an example, right? If you wanted to lose weight, what things would you add into your schedule? You would my add in exercise, you might add in shopping at sprouts or someplace that with really great organic foods and vegetables, right? Or you might add in even a walk every day with your dogs, right? Because that might build two things cause you want to be a better pet owner. So you might be able to kill two birds with one stone there. But what things would you cut out? You cut out a binge watching television for eight hours a night or something.
Speaker 2: (38:07)
You might take out of your schedule eating unhealthy lunches or going out to eat at unhealthy places with your friends every Friday night it's like, Oh yeah, well every Friday we go to burgers and beers and broths or something and we eat a bunch of crappy food and drink a bunch of beer and that's how we get together with our friends once a week. It's like, well, how about instead you get together at your house, you make some healthy food and everybody gets to bring something, have a potluck and you do it there. You add in where you're not eating unhealthy, so cutting things out, adding things in. You're going to have to think about those things and I want you also to think about what is driving you, what fears are driving you. Because a lot of times we do things not because we want to, but because we're afraid of what would happen if we don't or we're afraid of what would happen if we did even success.
Speaker 2: (39:06)
You know that a lot of people say that they have a fear failure, but there's a lot of people who actually fear a success. What would happen if I was successful? There would be more people depending on me. Maybe I would have a bunch of people coming out of the woodwork wanting money from me, things from me. Right? There's a lot of reasons why some people don't want fame. We've always had that question when we were young. People would go, what would you take? Would you rather have be a millionaire and have all the money in the world or rather be famous? There's a lot of people who'd rather be famous and a lot of people who are like, man, I don't want anybody to know who I am, but I'd rather have a lot of money. Right? Why? Because there's fears that drive those values inside you.
Speaker 2: (39:50)
So what kind of fears drive you or what kind of fears hold you back? Think about those fears, right? The fear of losing money. The fear of never achieving something, never amounting to anything. Maybe a fear of not being enough. I think one of the biggest ones is we have a fear of not being loved or people making fun of us, right? Or not being accepted for the person that we are. That's a huge fear. So when we're thinking about this year and planning those things, we need to eliminate those fears and I loved it because reading that book at the beginning of the year is like, let's take out leave in 2019 all those fears that drove me back. Then, let's leave all those back in 2019 and let's start 2020 out with no fear. Let's start 2020 out in a different place and no longer look to be accepted by anyone else.
Speaker 2: (40:52)
Let's really take this into our own hands and go the way we want to go just for this year. You don't have to do it next year. It just take one year for yourself. Start with this one year where you don't do anything for anyone else but you. This year is all about you and don't worry, we're putting the mask on ourselves, right? Obviously, if we're happy or husband's going to be happier or wife is going to be happy, our kids are going to be happy, right? Obviously it's not about taking away from those people, but let's take one year and just see what happens. If we do this whole year about us, about doing what makes us happy, just for one year, just this one year. I want you guys to think about that and I want you to be really vulnerable too because being vulnerable, it's not easy.
Speaker 2: (41:45)
We are so afraid of being judged. We are so afraid of not being loved. We put all these things out there and we're so afraid of doing something that's going to offend somebody else or something that is going to push people that we love away from us, right? So we bend and we critique ourselves until our necks are crooked and our backs are broken so that we can just be loved and accepted and enough and we're miserable. So just this year, I want you to do what makes you happy. Just this year. Okay. Be vulnerable because I love you and I care about you. And I know there's a ton of other people out there who love you. There really is. You just might not have met Amal yet. Right? Okay, so now let's go through the three steps that we went through in the miracle morning and these are great steps.
Speaker 2: (42:39)
This does not give you a clear picture of the book. By the way. You really have to read the book. I am condensing the crap out of it right now, so you're going to have to go in there. But step number one is know yourself. Know yourself. Identify your top three highest values. What do you value the most? What do you want the most? What are your top three goals for 2020 focus only on three things. Keep it just three things. It doesn't matter if it's simple or really, really complicated. It can be a really big business. It's going to be your goals though. Not the goals that you think you should have. I mean, if you don't want to have 20 properties or a hundred properties or whatever, if that's not you, that's okay. I mean nobody should get mad if I don't want to have a bunch of properties that are short term rentals.
Speaker 2: (43:38)
I have properties, other properties too. And there are properties that I have for different reasons. So whose business is it? But mine about what I want and what is success to me because we get to define our own life. So that's where you have to know yourself. You can't define your own life unless you know yourself, know what you want and that sometimes not sometimes always takes a quiet moment in. Remember I said I took those two weeks off and suddenly I had a day or two, somewhere in the middle of there. It hit me that I had a whole afternoon where I could just sit and think and write it all out myself. And that's what I want you to do. Know yourself, find out what you want to work on. Know what success is for you. Focus on the three things this year for you.
Speaker 2: (44:34)
Okay? Don't worry. You can have other things for other people too. Cause obviously if your parent, you've got to take care of your kids. That doesn't mean all those things disappear. It just means your three things that you are focusing on accomplishing this year are your three things and you're going to prioritize those three things. So step one, know yourself. Step two is love yourself. Wow, that one's a good one. I don't know if you've ever read Louise hay, she's awesome or it was awesome. She is the founder of hay house and hay house is a publishing company. One of my favorite publishing companies. I would love someday to have a book with a house. They're actually my favorite publishing company. But Louise used to have you look in the mirror and tell yourself you love yourself. And they made fun of it on Saturday night live way back in the day, you know?
Speaker 2: (45:26)
And he was like, and God darn it, I love myself. You know? And he would look in the mirror, this guy. But have you ever tried to do that? It's freaking hard. Like looking in the mirror and going, I love you. And you're just like, part of you just is like, are you serious? And the other part is like this is the stupidest thing is really, really hard for us to accept love and affection, especially from ourselves. We are our own worst critics and we just give ourselves so much crap about all the things we've done wrong. It's time to start loving ourselves and that means loving herself enough to allow ourself the failures and to encourage us to move ahead. So you need to really start loving yourself. Shut down anything this year that isn't about your top three things. If there's something that detracts you from your three goals, is this going to move me towards my goal or away from it?
Speaker 2: (46:28)
If it moves you away from your top three goals, then it's a no this year. Okay? So love yourself enough to take care of yourself and to make your priorities the priority this year. And then step number three is be yourself. Create your schedule around you around the things that you want. Create the life that you absolutely love living. If you are telling yourself, I am a healthy person who is active every single day and I eat healthy and I take care of myself and doing my business. I love picking up properties and contacting all my people and I love juggling all the cleaning schedules and making sure that all the systems are running right and I love decorating my place. If those are a part of who you are, then absolutely every day should be filled with the things that make you happy. Doing those things, being that person, be the person you want to be.
Speaker 2: (47:32)
Make sure that all the habits that you commit to creating all the rituals that you create this year we'll all be directing you towards the person who you are the person you want to be, the person that you love, okay? That's what you're going to do this year, so you're going to know yourself, love yourself, and be yourself and you're also going to read those two books because they're going to be the best gift that you give yourself all year is going to be reading those books and getting your life on track. Let's make 2020 amazingly good. It's going to be fantastic and I can't wait to join you in them. That's all for this week. Next week we're going to be talking about how to get five star reviews, so that's going to be great, but do me a favor, if you have time, please take time out to go on iTunes and leave us a five star review because we need some more reviews. We've got to get ourself up and ready for this next coming year and share this podcast with somebody you love. I would love for you to do that, and if you want to, you can email me. I gave you my email address, [email protected] Just email me. Remember, I'll give you something. If you take the time to do that, I'd appreciate it. God bless you. We'll talk to you next week. Have a great day. Go and grow.
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